There are many of us who see relationships or marriage to be something we need to survive, making us get attached to people we don't need in our lives. In case you don't know, no person is oxygen, around whom your life revolves. A relationship adds to your life, it's not what makes your life. God is the one who makes life and you need Him first before any other thing.

When you depend on anyone for everything, you are not in a relationship but on an attachment and as far as life is concerned, you don't need that. The only thing an attachment is good for is Emails.

Lots of men are so sick today because of the presence of the woman in their lives. A girl who forces them to meet all their needs and that of their family and friends. They have no call credit on their phones but have bought more than enough for their girlfriends who don't use it to call them but call others and only flash them for more credit when it runs out.

As human beings, we are all part of the body of God and are connected in one way or another. This is why everyone must value relationships and be mindful of how we treat others. The toes you are comfortably stepping on today may be connected to a lip you would love to kiss tomorrow. The one on whose fingers you shut the door on today might be linked to someone who has to open a door for the biggest opportunity of your life tomorrow.

Truth be told, good sex and lies is what it takes to waste ten years of a lady's life. When the sex is good, she accidentally yells "I love you" out of ecstasy, but the truth is, she doesn't love him. To add insult to injuries, is when the guy replies "I love you too" and it feels like they are so much in love and will be together for life.

I have come to realize that some people are mentally immature; they are still in high school in life, and think reporting someone's bad character to their family equals to changing them. Stop reporting your boy or girlfriend to their parents, siblings, friends, etc. They are not the problem rather you. Dating means to study someone for marriage, not to change someone for marriage.

Will your partner still love you if you can't give them sex or satisfy them in bed? Will they stay when you are broke or fired from work? Will they still be with you if you lose your home or you become homeless? What shows your partner will still agree to be with you when you have nothing to offer them? Will they find a way to be with you or look for an excuse to leave you?

We all have wishes, dreams and plans for the future; when it comes to marriage, and you have to choose any woman as a wife to spend the rest of your life with then never settle on a side chick. It doesn't matter her looks or how much you feel about her, not even if the lady in question claims to love you, for she is just with another woman's man for the money, comfort and support, for as long as it lasts.

It is an undeniable fact that, to be old and wise, one must first be young and stupid but when it comes to marriage, which is one decision that affects your life permanently, you don't want to jeopardize that. That is why it must be done well; you need a partner who is old and wise before you venture into this life time journey. If you don't and end up marrying a girl instead of a woman as a wife, you will live in frustration.

Many relationships are in crises today because one is married to an immature person. Truth be told, many women are marred to boys. Boys who are not ripe for marriage. Boys who need to stay a little longer with their parents. If you have to marry then look for a man-friend and not a boy-friend.

Being mature is not about age or your college degree or earnings. Maturity is about responsibilities. You can be old and still act as a child. You can be old and still not be responsible. Being a man is about responsibility, to be able to cultivate, keep and provide.

Love is a choice we make, a decision we take. You can choose to love an enemy; and in some marriages people are married to their enemies and not lovers. Enemies because of the treatment, insult, abuse, etc. they get.

In case you are married and wake up to find out your loving spouse has turned into an enemy overnight, what do you do; knowing marriage has a door but no window; knowing marriage is for better for worse; knowing divorce is not God's plan for marriage.