It's really sad to know that some people you put first in life, stop everything for, go out loud for and be there when they need you, only see you as a tool in their hand; as long they can use you, they treat you as an important person, and drop you at any point in time when they find someone better than you. It is heart breaking to know some people have no respect for relationships.
Growing up, none of us liked some kind of teachers in our schools, especially during the earlier parts of our lives. These are teachers who will give us the worst punishment when we go wrong, just to make sure we get it right, yet they were our least favourite. As bad as we labelled them, looking back now, we can all be proud and say such individuals were some of the best things to ever happen to us. They taught us the hardest lessons, helped us get rid of bad habits, instilled discipline, good morals and character and good attitude in us.
Someone once said to me, "sweet things are best enjoyed when you close your eyes", citing that as one of the reasons why some people close their eyes when they kiss; and this is also why people enjoy sleep when they are having sweet dreams. It is the same reason why some people close their eyes to everything when they fall in love. They pay deaf ears to all the warnings, advice and red flags.
The truth is, no matter how new your ride is or how smooth your road is, it is senseless driving with your eyes closed. You risk losing your life, not even a fool will do that.
It is sad to know that many marriages have become a garden of pains, spouses have hurt each other, not willing to forgive, living like roommates, filled with anger, regrets and bitterness. Such marriages are running out of love, the spouses are not sensitive and are heartless towards one another. If you find yourself in such a marriage, all hope is not lost, let the lesson from Easter restore your union.
It's amazing to see the so called ugly or not good looking women getting married to good men, whilst the presumed good looking, fascinating single women struggle to find a man of their own, not to talk of a husband. And they ask themselves, what's wrong with me? Am I under any curse?
A bad cook can make you lose appetite for a very delicious meal; a bad customer service can make you lose interest in a great product. In the same way a wrong person can make you think love hurts. In actual fact, love doesn't hurt, love heals, love gives life, love makes you smile, love makes you beautiful, love touches lives, making love the greatest of all things.
There has been this myth circulated by some people that, there is nothing like 'cheating in dating', which is not true. Cheating simply means an act of dishonesty. When you are dating anyone who lies to you, flirts with others, has sex with them, etc, such a person is not loyal to you and this is termed as cheating. This is different from adultery which is voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not their spouse.
There is one statement which always strikes me "Happiness is a choice"; and I believe there are a lot of people out there who may think otherwise about that. How are you supposed to be happy when people do things intentionally to hurt you? How are you supposed to be happy when people around you look for the least opportunity to bring you down?
Men are not God and can never be. God is superior. Men are not lords over women as many think, men are supposed to be head of their families, a husband, father and a friend. Your role as a leader is to serve. It isn't to use your position to intimidate your own family, abuse or cause them pains, but to bring them relief, smiles, hope, comfort and above all to love them.
Most at times, some ladies wonder why their boyfriends or husbands don't respect them, yet the same man shows respect to other women outside. They are at a loss why this is so. The truth is, if any man is disrespecting you today, chances are you accepted that from him yesterday.