Women don't need men; a woman is a need to a man and not the other way round. Until every woman knows this and not be the one who needs a man, the one chasing men for marriage but rather becoming the one a man needs, any relationship with a man in the name of marriage will amount to nothing.
It is a man that needs a woman, a woman can live alone without a man but a man without a woman is just a mess. The bible says in Genesis 2:18-22 (MSG); God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.” So God formed from the dirt of the ground all the animals of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the Man to see what he would name them. Whatever the Man called each living creature, that was its name. The Man named the cattle, named the birds of the air, named the wild animals; but he didn’t find a suitable companion. God put the Man into a deep sleep. As he slept he removed one of his ribs and replaced it with flesh. God then used the rib that he had taken from the Man to make Woman and presented her to the Man".
When God needed to bring the Saviour into this world, He only needed Mary to get this done. Joseph didn't need to carnally know Mary to get this done or become his wife to get this done, but the case was different when it came to Abraham. To be a father of nations, he needed the partnership of a woman for this promise to be fulfilled.
It is very funny how our society has deceived us, made us to believe that women are nothing without a man, making women believe they cannot live normal lives without the help of a man; but men need the help of a woman to achieve this. It is sad how society mocks women because they are not married. Mary Magdalene was not married but was one of major financiers of Jesus' ministry; taking care of Him and the disciples. Does her marital status make her useless? No wonder she was the first person Jesus appeared to.
So young ladies chasing men out there, please stop it, it not fancy. Until a man sees you as a need, he will never value you. Let the man do the chasing, let him prove to you he needs you in his life, let him put you there. Let him ask for your hand in marriage before he takes you to bed, let him make you a wife before he makes you a mother.
If you become a need for a man, he never gives up on you, he listens to you, he admires you, you become his sole cabinet minister. This makes you powerful. Men don't value women they don't see as a need, they don't love them, they don't listen to them.
So instead of being desperate in search of a man as a need, add value to yourself. In other words a dog needs bones for survival, without dogs, bones have nothing to lose. It's never a sin, curse or a disobedience on the part of a woman to remain single. After all not everyone has the grace for marriage, so become a woman a man sees as a need; a good woman.
But Jesus said, “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn’t for everyone. Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked—or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you’re capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it.” - Matthew 19:11-21 (MSG).
In Conclusion "A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long." - Proverbs 31:10-12 (MSG).
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