Most at times, some ladies wonder why their boyfriends or husbands don't respect them, yet the same man shows respect to other women outside. They are at a loss why this is so. The truth is, if any man is disrespecting you today, chances are you accepted that from him yesterday.
Why will a man whistle at you and you find nothing wrong with responding, what you are just telling him is you are a dog and not a lady. In my part of the world, that's what we do when calling dogs. Why will a lady accept a man to hit her butt just to draw her attention and you accept to speak to such a man? It is only a horse whose butt is hit for it to act as their riders want.
Why will a lady allow a man to abuse her twice? I find it fascinating. The first time it happened you were only a victim but if it repeats a second time, it just means you are a volunteer.
If you agreed to have sex with a guy you were not married to, why complain when they are not taking you to the alter; after all you agreed to be taken to bed and not to the alter?
All these are happening because some ladies are so thirsty for attention and not a bit hungry for respect. They forget that they teach a man how to treat them from day one. One thing many people don't know is that yesterday cannot be revised, whatever you accept today becomes the norm or standard for how people treat you tomorrow.
It is beautiful to be in love, to feel important in someone's life, but falling in love with someone who disrespects you makes you feel unimportant to them. Love is not only about romance and sweet words, it is about valuing someone more than yourself, its about respecting them.
The way sweetness never goes out of honey and stars never leave the sky, is the same way you can't have true love and run out of respect. It is a big lie for someone to claim they love you and yet disrespect you. Falling in love with someone who doesn't respect you is the worst illness that can ever visit you.
Ladies, no matter your age, kindly wait for someone who treats you with respect, someone who treats you like an investment and not a test drive; someone who loves beyond your weakness and still believes you are the best thing that happened to them. Someone who cherishes you every day.
And always remember, one day your daughter will follow your examples and not your advice.
In conclusion "Don’t work yourself into the spotlight; don’t push your way into the place of prominence. It’s better to be promoted to a place of honor than face humiliation by being demoted" - Proverbs 25:6-7 (MSG).
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