It’s true that no relationship is perfect. Most romantic relationships begin with joy and hope, and marriages are no different. But sometimes, one partner decides to leave or falls for someone else while still committed. When that happens, they often start focusing on their partner’s flaws, forgetting the love and happiness they once shared. Just because someone chooses to leave doesn’t mean their partner was a bad person or that the relationship didn’t matter.
Relationships are built by two people. Together, they create both good and painful memories. Sadly, the person who leaves often forgets the good times and only remembers the bad. They may start seeing only the positives in the new person and only the negatives in the one they’re leaving behind.
One of the deepest hurts is when someone speaks badly about their former partner to their new love. This can lead the new partner to disrespect someone who once gave their heart and trust. It’s a painful betrayal to be spoken of poorly by someone you once loved deeply.
Nobody is perfect. If you look hard enough, you’ll always find faults in someone, especially if you’ve grown apart. But if you choose to end a relationship, do it with kindness and respect. Don’t share their weaknesses or damage their reputation just to feel better or to impress someone new.
People recover from breakups, divorce and emotional pain. But being shamed or dishonoured is a different kind of wound, one that may never heal. If you must walk away, do it with grace. Don’t destroy the dignity of someone you once cared for. Because in doing so, you may not just break their heart, you could crush their spirit.
In conclusion, “You are the people of God; he loved you and chose you for his own. So then, you must clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” – Colossians 3:12 (GNT).
Frank Edem Adofoli known as Counsellor Adofoli, is a renowned Counsellor, Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) Practitioner, Conflict Expert, Conference Speaker, Motivator, and Author.
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