Don’t Let Silence Speak Louder Than Love

In every relationship, especially in marriage or romantic relationships, conflicts, misunderstandings, arguments, and disagreements are natural. What isn’t natural, however, is resolving those conflicts. Resolution doesn’t happen automatically; it requires effort and intentionality.

During conflict, partners often become emotionally disconnected. They may turn inward, focusing more on their own needs and comfort than on the relationship. This is typical when communication breaks down.

Depending on the severity of the issue, some individuals may go as far as blocking their partner, cutting off communication or refusing to answer calls. While such behaviour may be understandable, especially when one feels hurt and needs personal space, it should not persist for too long.
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Couples, lovers, or married partners should not remain distant for extended periods. Ideally, resolving issues within 24 hours is best. Prolonged silence or separation sends a message beyond hurt, it signals to your partner that you may no longer value the relationship.

You begin to teach your partner how to live without you. You’re telling them to forget you, pushing them away, and implying that you’re content without them. Every relationship requires consistent nurturing. Conflict doesn’t mean the relationship is over, but living apart for too long can suggest that you no longer need your partner.

It’s okay to take time to calm down after a disagreement. However, refusing to resolve the issue, or worse, avoiding your partner or preventing them from reaching you, puts the relationship at risk. The longer you stay apart, the easier it becomes to lose the connection you’ve built over time.

So, the next time you face conflict in your relationship, ask yourself: How much does this relationship mean to me? If you don’t want to lose it, set pride aside. Reach out to your partner or make yourself available.

In conclusion:

“Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].” -  Colossians 3:13 (AMPC).