Lots of men get carried away by the beauty of a woman and are quick to speak without thinking. They become extremely excited and begin to make promises in an attempt to win the love of the woman, forgetting that promises are like babies, fun to make, easy to make but hard to deliver.
One can appear to be the nicest you have ever met by the way they talk, their kindness towards you at first, but it's only a matter of time to test their true colour, for them to reveal their true intention, their real character.
Since women by nature fall in love with what they hear, they are easily carried away. A young woman who is in love is a spaewife; a woman who is believed to be able to predict the future and these predictions are made based on what they hear.
As these men forget their promises in a hurry and as fast as they made them, women on the other hand hold on to these promises, dreaming about it, hoping and praying they come to pass. A woman can stay in a wrong relationship for a very long time, based on the kind of promises they wish comes to pass.
At every point in the relationship, they remember these promises and play them back like it happened just yesterday. When the men don’t remember, they are able to remind them by quoting the date, time, location and event at which these promises were said. They are like recorders; they play back the promises they hear.
The truth is, some of these men neither have good intentions nor do they mean their words. Their words such as "I will marry you". That's why they get mad at the lady when she asks "When are you taking me home to see your family?” “When are you coming over to see my people”. “When are we getting married”, “When are you coming for the list?”
The only time a gentleman may be permitted to tell his lady a lie is when he wants to surprise her, to put smiles on her face, not to shock her or put tears in her eyes. There is no need to kill the smiles on the face of the woman you claim to love in the name of love by making her cry.
Relationships filled with tears will send you to an early grave, for it is said that laughing for 15 seconds adds two days to your lifespan, so imagine crying all the time? You rather subtract from your lifespan.
In the course of dating someone or being in a relationship, there is no need to be perfect for your ideal partner. All you need is to be honest. Those looking for a true partner, please don't look for what is perfect, for most at times, it comes with a lot of stories of promises which are not real.
Ladies, carry yourselves like queens and you will attract a king; if you carry yourself like a desperate person, you will attract a storyteller, who is also a potential lair. These are facts and there is nothing you can do to change the truth when you go wrong. It's my prayer that this truth will change you and prepare you for a great marriage in the future.
In conclusion "The more talk, the less truth; the wise measure their words" - Proverbs 10:19 (MSG).
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