It is very true that no human being is perfect; everyone has a blemish, a blind spot, a shortfall and a weakness but that doesn't prevent you from having a perfect marriage; a marriage suitable for just you and your spouse. Being imperfect as an individual cannot stop you and your partner from becoming a perfect couple.
Sometimes we think a perfect life is full of laughter but that's not true. A perfect life has tears, it’s a mixture of the laughter and tears that makes life inspiring. A perfect life has work to do and that comes with pains for the life everyone wants cannot be found but it can be created.
I have heard and read about lots of love stories and have experienced some myself but nothing was beautiful to me than a marriage between a blind man and cripple wife. Which many people might think is a perfect description of the worst choice or combination.
How can a man who is blind get married to a woman who is crippled? But listening to the couple, they describe themselves as a sweet couple. The blind man says he is not blind because his wife is his eyes whilst the wife says she is not crippled because her husband is her leg. The irony of this story is, what is a weakness in one is a strength in the other, describing the power of love, the power of becoming one. The power of understanding, knowing one is not perfect as an individual, one cannot function as a single unit but together they can do anything people think was impossible.
Truly love makes up for many of your faults as 1 Peter 4:8 testifies. Many couples think they are not perfect, some spouses think they got married to the wrong partner, thinking going out to find someone else could be the best solution to the ideal marriage they dreamt of having, which is a very big lie. The reason why their marriage is not working is because they are together but not one. They refuse to understand each other, complement each other, work together as a unit. They focus on the individual shortfalls and weakness instead of asking how they can become the strength for their partner.
A Perfect marriage is work and if all spouses will learn to work together as a team, they will come to value what they have fought hard to achieve or become. They will come to understand they are a perfect couple, and just that they were not in a perfect situation. At this point they can look back and be glad they never gave up.
I keep telling the married and single that love is not emotion, love is not feeling. If love is emotion or feeling, marriage won't last a lifetime; marriage won't be separated by death but murder. Getting married to someone you feel so great about, or special about doesn't mean they won’t hurt you. Such a relationship is not bound to fail. The only glue that keeps a relationship is a decision, a choice to keep it, care for it, fight for it, work for it and never give up on it.
This requires God's divine love which is not normal to the flesh. A love that is given by God. A love which is a decision to be committed to your spouse whether they are friends to you today or become an enemy tomorrow. Understanding this and applying it makes marriage perfect and lasting.
I will conclude with this command from Jesus Christ "But I tell you to love your enemies and pray for anyone who mistreats you" - Matthew 5:44 (CEV).
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