It is sad to know that many marriages have become a garden of pains, spouses have hurt each other, not willing to forgive, living like roommates, filled with anger, regrets and bitterness. Such marriages are running out of love, the spouses are not sensitive and are heartless towards one another. If you find yourself in such a marriage, all hope is not lost, let the lesson from Easter restore your union.
A normal spouse will not treat you bad; they only do so because there is something wrong with them. This is why you have to learn to forgive them for the truth is, most of them don't even know what is wrong with they themselves.
On the cross, Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” - Luke 23:34a (NIV). Not many of us may understand Jesus. Why should He forgive people who deliberately hurt Him and show no remorse.
The first human being God created was a perfect being, innocent, knew nothing like evil and had no sin or corruption. The woes of a man began when Satan through the serpent corrupted man.
Human beings are no more innocent, man knows what is good and evil, human beings chose bad over good and in summary, human beings became sick. There is nothing more you can do for a sick person than to forgive him. That is the help they need.
So as we remember the death of Jesus Christ, one of the core lessons we should take from Him and apply in our relationships is to forgive our friends, spouse and loved ones, for they don't know what they are doing. They don't know their words hurt, they don't know their actions kill. This is because they are sick.
Therefore instead of hating them, say a prayer for them; instead of forsaking them, love them. If not for love, God wouldn’t send His only begotten Son to die for us. If not for love Jesus wouldn’t suffer for our sins.
To love doesn't mean your spouse won't hurt you; but we define our love when we lay down our pride, ego and say to them, I forgive you. We don't do that because we are fools but because we know better. By so doing the Lord blesses us and answers our hidden request.
You don’t need to start with your partner, start with yourself, make the first move, say I forgive you. Remember it is not love if you can’t forgive your spouse.
In conclusion "God blesses those people who make peace. They will be called His children!" - Matthew 5:9 (CEV).
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