The goal of the wife or the woman is to get married to a man with vision, a man with direction, so he can lead her. But the story is different these days with some ladies. Desperation, loneliness and pressure from society is pushing some women to rather lead men with no vision; trying to be a mother for these men they are supposed to get married to; planting flowers in the yard of men who don't have what it takes to water it.
Vision is a key in the life of everyman, it is like a direction. If a man has direction, you can't change it but you can help adjust the sail as a helper to reach his destination. In the situation where the man has no direction, what else can you do?
Young beautiful single lady, as you prepare for a valentine date please don't go partying or doing things that will cost you your future. It's a perfect opportunity to know the direction of this man before you jump into his boat. Knowing the direction gives you an idea of the destination. Don't just jump into his boat because you think it's nice, without knowing the direction. It is risky.
What do I mean by the direction? Know his vision for his life. His long and short term goals. What he is doing to achieve that, figure where you fit in? Don't force yourself into his life rather let him put you there. Let him tell you why he thinks you are the perfect mate? Don't just be carried away. Don’t fall for his words, it serves as a route for his navigation.
If what you hear is something you don't like, please don't try to change him for he is likely to return to his past or default direction. Valentine is not a day for sex, it's a day of love; he opening up his soul to you, telling you his dreams, fears, hopes, thought is more than being naked with you. No one opens up to strangers disclosing information about their future, but people can easily have sex with strangers, people they don't know. If you think I am lying, please ask a prostitute.
If he refuses to talk about that, it also means he doesn't value you as wife or helper. You should not be surprised for people sometimes desire what they don't value. Distance yourself. Don't let any man buy you with a drink, food or money in the name of valentine.
Everything has its price tag; many things can also be bought, but there are things that cannot be bought not because they have no value but because they are priceless. Their value is too high to price. You should be that.
When a man is truly in love, they are willing to share their life with you; the deepest parts of their soul and doing that causes them to love you more. So in case he doesn't want to share, it also means he doesn't love you.
In conclusion "Where there is no vision, the people perish; but happy is he who keeps the teaching" - Proverbs 29:18 (MEV).
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