Most people cheating use anger as a cover up for their ill behaviour. You are wrong and because you don't want to be questioned, you adapt the strategy of anger to prevent your partner from talking about it; using that as an escape route. You hurt the one who loves you with your behaviour and act as if you are being hurt. You stabbed the very person you call loved one a thousand times with your actions, and then acted as if you were the one bleeding.
Many of the attacks I am getting out from my article, 'Don't marry someone with password on their phone' is not because I said something wrong; it is because the people doing it wanted to use attack as a cover up and many don't even spend a minute to read before raining insults. These are adults and I am thinking of the kind of children they are raising.
Marriage runs on openness. There is absolutely nothing your spouse shouldn't know. This is how the two become one flesh. Does anyone feel embarrassed alone being naked? If your spouse is one flesh with you, you cannot be embarrassed being naked with them.
When you accept to marry someone, you accept to open your heart and mind to them, share your dreams, aspirations, thoughts, feelings, hurts, good times, bad times, joy, etc. You accept to open your wallets and purse to them and share your resources, income, money, etc. You accept to share your body with them; giving full access. You accept to open your computer, phone, emails, social media accounts to them, share passwords without being asked.
If you are not ready to give your partner open access to your entire life unreservedly, then don't get married to them. Your spouse is your helper, how can he or she help you when you are not open to them? Why are we trying to be wiser than God who created marriage? This is why we are failing in marriages; we run it like remedial classes.
We are not perfect and can't be, all that the Creator wants from us is honesty. The bible says in John 4:24 (NLV) "God is Spirit. Those who worship Him must worship Him in spirit and in truth". The question is, what can you hide from the spirit? A spirit can enter a locked room without the need of a key, security camera cannot detect a spirit. A password on your phone cannot prevent a spirit from knowing what you are hiding.
To those married yet guilty of this act, there is an old adage which says a bird in hand is worth more than thousand in the bush; in other words a blessing you have is more than thousands of opportunities out there. This is why you don't have to lose your spouse who is in your heart over someone who is simply giving you attention. Stop hiding stuffs for the bible says in Luke 8:17 (NLT) “For all that is secret will eventually be brought into the open, and everything that is concealed will be brought to light and made known to all”.
The young women especially who are fond of following your fellow sister's husband, when you do that you anger God. You are telling God you don't trust Him who created you to give you what you deserve. You rather hate your sister for what she has. You don't need to chase another woman out of her marriage in order to get a husband. This is marriage and not jungle. You don't need to degrade another woman in order to upgrade yourself. That is purely hatred and bear in mind hate depreciates your value.
In conclusion "Stop lying to each other; tell the truth, for we are parts of each other and when we lie to each other we are hurting ourselves" -Ephesians 4:25 (TLB).
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