Are you single or in a relationship, hoping to get married in the years ahead? Many of the singles hope and pray for a successful marriage but many don't know that the road to success is always under construction. If you wish to have a good marriage in the future then it requires that you start working on yourself now.
Make a resolution to become a future best husband or wife for your spouse. Once you make this resolution, ask yourself, how can I achieve that? This will remain only a dream unless you work at it.
A common mistake singles make is that, they don't take decisions on marriage seriously until they fall in love. They start lifestyles, behaviours and habits which are not good for their marital lives, but think that once they meet that special person, they will stop these vices.
Change is difficult to accept. Sometimes we pretend to have accepted it but deep within we have not. Most singles think having many partners makes them smart. But have they stopped to think of getting married to that ideal spouse they always dreamed of and still cheat? This is because many have started a war now, which might destroy them in the future.
Others think sex with people they are not married to is a legacy. Some guys even have books where they list the number of girls they slept with, a rich profile to get praise from their peers but never think of its effect on their marriages tomorrow. Some take to drinking, smoking, killing themselves slowly in the name of fun. They have no idea the sicknesses they are infecting their future marriages with. People do all these with the aim of quitting once they meet their special one. The truth is they only become experts and more advanced before their spouses arrive. In order not to lose their partners, some pretend to have changed while in their true state, change is a stranger.
You always become better in what you do continuously. Don't start today what you don't want in the future. Rather, today, start with what you want in the future and become an expert of it.
Don't wait for marriage to get an earning; don't get a boyfriend to stock up your wardrobe. Work for your own salary, buy your own clothes. Manage the little you have and work towards achieving more on your own.
Don't wait for 31st December to spam church, set a goal to have a good relationship with God, pray every day for your life. Invest in yourself. Make your life so beautiful that your future spouse can’t resist you. When you do that, you become the best thing that ever happened to him or her.
Make it a goal to stop lying; keep away from liars, cheaters and disloyal people. You need to fix yourself before you fall in love. Associate with dreamers and doers, believers and thinkers, but above all with those who see greatness in you even when you don't see it yourself.
Create a life you will be proud of; create a life that feels good inside and not the one that just looks good on the other side. When you learn to do this, at the end of the day, you don't just have a happy life but a happy marriage. You can have fun without drinks, love your spouse and stick to them without conditions, have your dreams come to pass without drugs and you won't need selfies to smile.
I wish you a happy new month, a new chapter of your life. May you be filled with courage, strength, confidence, patience, self-love and inner peace in every corner of your life.
In conclusion "May God do what you want most and let all go well for you" - Psalm 20:4 (CEV).
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