We all have wishes, dreams and plans for the future; when it comes to marriage, and you have to choose any woman as a wife to spend the rest of your life with then never settle on a side chick. It doesn't matter her looks or how much you feel about her, not even if the lady in question claims to love you, for she is just with another woman's man for the money, comfort and support, for as long as it lasts.
It is an undeniable fact that, to be old and wise, one must first be young and stupid but when it comes to marriage, which is one decision that affects your life permanently, you don't want to jeopardize that. That is why it must be done well; you need a partner who is old and wise before you venture into this life time journey. If you don't and end up marrying a girl instead of a woman as a wife, you will live in frustration.
Many relationships are in crises today because one is married to an immature person. Truth be told, many women are marred to boys. Boys who are not ripe for marriage. Boys who need to stay a little longer with their parents. If you have to marry then look for a man-friend and not a boy-friend.
Being mature is not about age or your college degree or earnings. Maturity is about responsibilities. You can be old and still act as a child. You can be old and still not be responsible. Being a man is about responsibility, to be able to cultivate, keep and provide.
Love is a choice we make, a decision we take. You can choose to love an enemy; and in some marriages people are married to their enemies and not lovers. Enemies because of the treatment, insult, abuse, etc. they get.
In case you are married and wake up to find out your loving spouse has turned into an enemy overnight, what do you do; knowing marriage has a door but no window; knowing marriage is for better for worse; knowing divorce is not God's plan for marriage.
Love has brought lots of pains into the lives of young people more especially because of the wrong choice of a life partner. Pains as a result of dating at the wrong time of their life. Love leaves memories that no can steal, imagine if the memory is a painful one?
Don't marry a mummy's boy, rather marry your man. If you want to have a happy marriage as a woman then you need a man whose attention you don't have to compete for. You need a man who puts you first. A man who puts you above his mother, he doesn't regard you more than her but you are top on his priorities. If you marry a man who makes the mother more important than you, then you married a wrong man.
One of the big question single men ask is, "How do I know she is the right woman God has for me, since he who finds the right woman obtains favour from God?” This means there are some women who are definitely not right for you. One of such women is the one who forces you to have premarital sex with them.
No matter how beautiful they are, how hard working they are, or the role they play in church, if they have to force you to bed or put pressure on you for sex, then she is not the kind of woman who will be a blessing to your life.
This is one popular statement that runs the lives of a lot of people. It has actually become their philosophy in life. They use what they have to get what they want, but don't know that what they used to get it is not the same thing that can be used to keep what they got.
It's easy to get attention by making noise but do you know that not everyone likes noise? The truth is, noise will rather drive people away after getting their initial attention.
There is this question on whether to give someone a second chance during dating or not. I don't think you have to give people second chances during dating when there are others waiting for their first chance. The reason is simple, the second chance means absolutely nothing if nothing was learnt from the first.
Even with only one life, people still play with it not to talk of letting them know they have a second chance, they will surely not be careful with their actions. It is human nature. So set the rules before you start dating.
Singles these days find it impossible to date someone without sex; to get married without first fornicating. Many are in a no-sex before marriage relationship, yet they kiss, romance, finger, fondle, etc. Sin is the condition of the heart. Just a lustful look or unholy thought of someone qualifies you for sin. If you are not married, no human owns your body; your body is for God. Man can only acquire that through marriage.